Sunday, February 26, 2012

Friday: Kilimani and a dash to the airport

Friday was our last day in Kenya.  You know how the last day of a great trip feels:  Midway through the trip it felt as if you still had forever to take it all in, but now it’s come to a screeching halt, and you know it will end in a mad dash to the airport because there’s still so much to do.
Kyeni (pronounced Chenny) talks about the changing
demographics of adoption in Kenya.  Single mothers
lead the way and may account for 50% in 2012. 
First off was a meeting with Guy Bastable and Kyeni Muema on communication and branding for New Life Homes, specifically in the U.S.  Guy is a co-director for the Kilimani home in Nairobi, along with his wife Susanna.  He also serves as Manager of Partner Relations for the New Life Home Trust.  Kyeni is Director of Public Relations for New Life Homes, and she is fresh off a successful Open Day, the adoptive families’ reunion that we attended earlier last Saturday.  Guy and Kyeni seem to be spread thin in their responsibilities, but they clearly see Amani as a partner who can help them serve the babies.

The Kilimani home in Nairbobi.

Kilimani is headquarters for New Life Homes, located in a nice residential area in the western suburbs of Narobi.  Like all the other homes, it is an impressive piece of property.  It’s a short walk from Natural Oaks, our condo, so it served as a sort of refuge throughout our stay in Nairobi – warm, friendly and secure.  It also serves as home to Guy and Susanna Bastable and their sons Gero and Levi, and to New Life founders and directors Clive and Mary Beckenham.

Clive and Mary Beckenham.
Guy & Susanna Bastable.
 Next stop after our meeting with Guy and Kyeni was a sit-down meeting with Raymond Goez of Kazuri at the Java House at The Junction.  Jane and Raymond had a good meeting about the business relationship between Amani and Kazuri.  Java House is a Friday’s with great milkshakes.  They’re all over Nairobi and they’re a frequent stop for Amani trips.
By now, as you’d guess, we’re running out of day, and it’s time for some last-minute packing before we head off to the airport.  As always, the packing is harder than expected.  It takes some shuffling of goods to make sure all of our bags are under the 24-kilo Delta Airlines limit, and each contains what’s needed for Amani sales in Winston-Salem, Indianapolis and Cleveland.
We made it through customs and check-in in Nairobi -- just barely; they had to extend the time to get us all through -- and again through customs in Detroit.  I’m now posting this last blog on Sunday night, at home with Lannie and the Oscars Red-Carpet show on TV.  We had a fun Saturday night at Daddy Jack's, celebrating Marianne Townley's birthday, but my eyes were slamming shut by the end of the night, after a day-long trip home and an 8-hour time change.  Believe it or not, I’m looking forward to work tomorrow and a return to everyday life.  But I have a feeling that "everyday life" will be different now.  It will be hard to keep my mind off Kenya and the babies.

With Daisy & Cedric in Nakuru.
Lance & his pals in Nakuru.










Bethel House, Nakuru.
Wilson and Joyce at The Bethel House, Nakuru.

The kids at Bethel House give us a big "Good-by."

On the playground in Nakuru.
Amara Maimuna, Kisumu


Guy Hubiri, Kisumu

Mary McNamara (aka Mary Mac)
and Jane on Kiboko Bay, Lake
Victoria, Kisumu.
Mary Mac and Rachel at the Kazuri Bead Factory.

Suburban Nyeri.
Jane and Grace Pendu, Nyeri.
Joel Mutharimi, Nyeri.
Ginny and Jessica, Kisumu.
Achieng Oyoo, housekeeper, Kisumu


Maggie Wangui and kids at Nyeri.
Maggie and Osteen, Nyrei.

Briana Kerembo, Nyeri.

Osteen Mwamba, Nyeri.














Rachel, Mary Anne, Ginny & Jane, Amsterdam Airport Schiphol
Headed home!


Jayden and Lance, Nakuru.



Kiboko Bay, Lake Victoria, Kisumu



Saturday, February 25, 2012

Thursday: Nyeri, The Ark and The Ministry of Hauling

They named him Lucky John because he was lucky to be alive.  That’s how the baby was named by the sisters in the St. John’s mission hospital near Nyeri, in the central highlands of Kenya.  His HIV-positive mother had arrived a week earlier, given birth, contracted meningitis, and never recovered, dying at the hospital.  The sisters did their best to care for him, but he was deathly ill and undernourished a year later when Gabriel Ndiritu, with the assistance of the local police, found him and initiated the process that allowed Gabriel to take him to the Nyeri home and may soon lead to his adoption.  So Lucky John’s name continues to ring true.
Natalia Furaha and Lucky John.
Natalia's Swahili name Furaha
means "Celebrate."

 
Nyeri staff includes Veronica Wambui,
Charity Muthoni, Purity Wachuku,
Josline Gicuku,and Charity Gitau.
Lucky John’s was only one of the many stories we heard Thursday night from Nyeri co-directors  Gabriel and Monica Ndiritu when they joined us for dinner.  Gabriel clearly thrives on rescuing babies.  You can see it in his hazel eyes when he talks about it:  He does it because it’s the right thing to do, but he also does if for the thrill of the chase.  In doing so, he plays the roles of social worker, detective, salesman, tech consultant (he’s getting one of the three donated laptops, by the way), and trusted member of the community, all at once.  At any given time he knows how many babies are out there who need to be brought in to the Nyeri home (five as of Thursday night), how many beds he has available (three), and how many beds may free up in the next day or so (one more, if his work Friday on behalf of Grace Pendu’s adoption pays off).  And in the glovebox of his car he keeps letters of release from local police agencies – on their letterhead! – ready for signatures when the time is right to take another baby home.
Gabriel and Monica with the sons Lawrence (left) and Caleb.


Grace Pendu's adoption was
in the works Friday.

Osteen Mwamba

It was hard to leave Nyeri, especially after such a short stay.  The home there has its own character:  small, warm, and intimate, yet charged with the energy of Gabriel’s personality and his young family.  And it’s a small, close staff, easy to get to know, yet laser-focused on the care of their babies .  On top of all that, the landscape surrounding the home is just as striking; the kind of place that makes you want to change your plans and stay a couple more days just to have a chance to take in some more.  I’ll definitely be back.
Eli's coming:  Eli William's first steps.
Simon Mwenda.







It was a long, hot drive back to Nairobi Thursday afternoon.  I rode shotgun to Joseph’s driving and, without realizing it, fried my face to a crisp in the equatorial sun microwaving through the windshield.  When we got back to Nairobi, I took a quick dip in the Natural Oaks pool, and we headed back out to visit the Ark.  This was a little bit of a bonus for me; I had heard great things about the Ark, but hadn’t gotten to visit it on my last trip, and didn’t think we’d be able to squeeze it in on this one. 
The Ark is home to 10 elementary-school-aged kids who grew up in one of the other homes, but whose special needs have left them unadopted.  Like the kids in Nakuru’s Bethel House, they live family-style with three aunties and go to school nearby.  It's located in a nice residential part of Nairobi not far from the Kilimani home.  Their private school is among the best in the city.
Anton and Nigel at The Ark.
Because we dropped by unannounced, and just as the kids were finishing their homework and getting ready for dinner, it was a quick visit, and a little bit crazy.   All the kids know Jane and knew she’d bring them a surprise or two.This time it was brand-new backpacks from Winston-Salem’s Amani office.  They were a huge hit.
A long but fun day ended with packing for our departure the next day, Friday.  Packing at the end of an Amani trip serves as the last rites in a phenomenon Mary Mac dubbed “The Ministry of Hauling”  -- as in hauling all the gifts from the States to Kenya, then separating and hauling gifts to each of the separate homes, then buying beads and goods from the markets and hauling them to the condos, then packing it all again and hauling it home, then packing up the beads and goods and hauling them to the sales.  You get the picture.

Immersed in the Ministry of Hauling.

"It's all about the babies."  That's become our group's theme as our stay in Kenya has unfolded.  Of course the trip was also about the people we met, and the beautiful country we got to know a little better, and the friendships we made.  We kept telling ourselves, though, that it's all about the babies.  As I look at this picture on our final night, I realize the full circle of our adventure.  The photo was taken around 11 pm after a day that started with a prayer of thanks led by five-year-old Lawrence Ndiritu at the Nyeri home, included a blistering but scenic drive along the slopes of Mt. Kenya to Nairobi, and ended playing with a family of 10 kids after homework at The Ark, before dinner with my new friends at the Italian Village and a moonlit walk home to the Natural Oaks.  You can't tell from the photo, but my shirt is soaked with sweat from who knows how many trips up and down the four flights of stairs of the condo, and my suitcase is filled with memories from a great trip:  Kazuri beads, soapstone hearts and hippos, market earrings, wooden bowls and letter openers, and pashmina scarves -- all for sale to friends of Amani, and mixed in with my other gifts and worn clothes grimy with red Kenyan clay.  It has been a full day and a full trip, the kind that makes me wonder if my name isn't Lucky John, too. 





Thursday, February 23, 2012

Wednesday: Kazuri beads and the New Life Home in Nyeri

Wednesday’s plan was for our group to split up after lunch – Mary Mac and Rachel to a safari on the Masai Mara, and Jane, Mary Anne, Ginny and I to the New Life Home in Nyeri.  But there were more beads to be bought and lunch to be had before we went our separate ways.
Our return trip to the Kazuri Bead Factory probably needs some explanation.  Amani has had a unique relationship with Kazuri since 2004, when Jane and our cousin Rene Barnard dropped by for some casual shopping one day just before closing.  Two hours later, they had fleshed out the “beads for the babies” concept that plays a major role in Amani fundraising today. 
Kazuri employs 340 Nairobi-area women -- most of
them single mothers -- in a fair-trade business.
The concept goes something like this:  Amani buys beads and jewelry at Kazuri and takes them back to the States to beading groups in Winston-Salem, Indy, Culver, Cleveland, Harrisburg and other pockets of Amani friends across the county.  The beaders make and re-make Amani jewelry, which is then sold through a number of different informal networks – through private parties, church functions, art fairs, and through the Amani Market in Winston-Salem  and the Indy Amani office in Indianapolis – with every penny going back to Kenya to support New Life Homes.


It wasn’t always that simple.  Kazuri co-owner and general manager Raymond Goez recalls that he had to “reverse-negotiate” with Jane that first night just to get her out of the store.  Jane would say, “I’ll give you a $100 for this packet of beads.”  Raymond would say, “I’ll take $50,” and so it went, Raymond taking half of what Jane was offering, each round of upside-down haggling getting him a step closer to closing time.  A “win-win-win” business relationship and friendship evolved, all to the benefit of the babies of New Life Homes and the 340 women employed by Kazuri, all single mothers earning a solid income in a respected fair-trade business.
Jane and co-owner & general manager
Raymond Goez chat outside Kazuri
Kazuri workers rotate jobs periodically
to stay fresh and involved in their work.












After our Kazuri tour and another round of shopping for beads – our fourth by my count – we had a quick lunch at the Tamambo restaurant, adjacent to Kazuri, on the Karen Blixen Estate.  The food was different but simple and very good – I had Kuku Kikapu, an unfortunately named but very tasty chicken dish – and the setting made me feel as if “I had a farm in Africa at the foot of the Ngong Hills.”


The drive approaches Mount Kenya,
 the 2nd-highest peak in Africa.
After lunch our group split up, and Jane, Mary Anne, Ginny and I started the the 60-mile drive  from Nairobi to Nyeri, with Francis’s partner Joseph doing the driving while Francis was on another job.  It’s a beautiful drive, like the one to Nakuru, but maybe even more stunning in terms of its views.  The route steadily gains elevation as it runs through small farms with terraced hillsides and eventually approaches the lower slopes of Mount Kenya. 




About 12 miles short of Nyeri, just outside a city called Karatina, our van broke down.  It was too hot and the highway too narrow for us to sit there while Joseph called Francis for advice and started working on the van, so we all bailed out and started walking.  Of course we would make it safely to Nyeri.  Jane had called Gabriel Ndiritu, co-director with his wife Monica of the New Life Home there, and he was prepared to come to our rescue.  And it wouldn’t take Joseph long to get the van going and come scoop us up. 


That gave us just enough time to provide some amusement for three school children who stopped to watch our little drama unfold from across the highway, and for a father and daughter perched on the hillside above.  Along the way we met a woman with a red-combed chicken the size of a small dog tucked under her arm.  I asked her if I could take her picture.  She clutched the bird’s thorny legs with one hand and waved me away with the other, telling me I’d have to pay if I wanted to take her picture.   Somehow that seemed backwards; I was the different-looking one out there, not her.  I politely declined anyway and changed the subject to the chicken.  I'm not sure why, but I asked her how much it cost her.  She said she'd bought it from a neighbor for a thousand shillings and asked if I'd like to buy it from her.  Fortunately, Joseph arrived just then with our repaired van, just in time to end this negotiation which was going nowhere anyway.  
Osteen's first night in a big bed.

We arrived in Nyeri in time to check in at the Greenhills Hotel and walk across the road to the home.  It was nearly bedtime there, so we only had time for a quick tour, some pictures of the babies, and a visit with Gabriel and Monica.  We were there long enough to see that the Nyeri home is a very special place.  It sits on a beautiful piece of property on winding road carved through bright red Kenyan clay.  The home itself is more compact than the others, housing only 18 babies and 20 staff.  But it’s clearly no less a force in its community in the key role it plays in rescuing and caring for abandoned babies.
Gabriel started at New Life Homes in Nairobi 11 years ago, first as a painter and then as a guard, before he and Monica moved to Nyeri as newlyweds in 2006 to help open the new home.  Gabriel  does most of the talking for the couple, which seems just fine with Monica.  He is curious and bright and articulate, clearly a leader and an asset to New Life Homes.
Gabriel and Monica's sons Caleb (left)
and Lawrence show off their new Colts
jerseys, straight from Indianapolis.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Tuesday: Kisumu and back to Nairobi

Two Kisumu babies joined us on our
flight back to Nairobi Tuesday night.
We had eight passengers flying on six tickets from Kisumu back to Nairobi last night.  The extra two were nine-month-old baby girls who had been declared free for adoption and have adoptive parents waiting for them in Nairobi, which will free up beds for two new abandoned babiers at Kisumu.  It’s a long, hard drive from Kisumu to Nairobi, so the John and Prisca Ondeche asked us to take the babies with us. 
Aside from the fun of escorting the babies to their new homes, Tuesday was a busy work day in Kisumu for all of us.  First thing in the morning Mary Mac and I joined Jane in what she called a “Board report” meeting with John and Prisca.  Among all the New Life Homes, Kisumu is unique in terms of its relationship with the Amani Children Foundation in that Amani provides nearly 100% of Kisumu’s funds and a good deal of strategic support. 

The Kisumu home currently cares for
38 children -- 17 babies, 10 crawlers,
and 11 children with special needs.
 The meeting was Jane’s chance to catch up on finances (under budget the past two years, despite a falling Kenyan shilling, John reports);  communication (Jane has in mind newsletters from each of the homes directly to sponsors); staff development (ideas involving Skyped delivery of in-service staff training were floated); and a possible return trip to the States by John O, this time possibly with Prisca, who is reluctant to leave her 38 babies (“But if the babies ask for me to do it, maybe I have to,” she said).  It was a crash course in the Amani/Kisumu relationship for Mary Mac and me, and clearly a good meeting for Jane and the Ondeches.
Gladys Awino is one of five social
workers on the New LIfe Homes staff.

While we were with the Ondeches, Mary Anne and Ginny were laying the groundwork for placement next year of an intern from their social work program at Union University with one of the New Life Homes.  They reported a good meeting, too, with the Kisumu home’s social worker, Gladys Awino.
  
Gila Rafiki.  Gila's Swahilii name, Rafiki,
means "one who makes friends easily."

Throughout the meetings, Rachel, Mary Mac’s beading friend from Cleveland, immersed herself in the babies:  feeding, playing, cleaning, cooing, staring, and feeding some more.  She was joined soon by the other women in our group, as Jane worked her way through the day room snapping photos, with a focus on babies in their newly donated outfits, while I set off on a project to interview and photograph the staff, for future use in Amani communications pieces. 

Michael Timizia, nicknamed "Big Mike."

True to form, our visit in Kisumu was all about the babies.  Well, nearly all.  I didn’t mention Monday night’s stay in a nice hotel in downtown Kisumu, with air-conditioning, Coke Lights, a Tusker’s bar, and water-buffalo-sized bath towels.  And there was the lunchtime shopping spree Tuesday with Prisca (but they did stop at a new Kazuri bead shop, which is mostly about the babies).  And did I mention last night’s massage and reflexology session that Mary Mac talked me into? 

A first birhday party for Aeneas, a
tradition at New Life Homes Kisumu.



Aeneas, dude, save some for us!












In the spirit of full disclosure, here’s how the massage went down:  It was a house call by Mary Njambi (that’s pronounced Jom-bee), a Kenyan woman who grew up in the slums, learned her craft from a nun, and has been supporting herself and her mother the past 10 years through her craft.  Mary Mac talked about the Kenyan massage as some sort of metaphysical missing link between the beads and the babies.  I thought of it as no more than a matter of cultural enrichment.  Or was it a random act of pure, self-serving decadence, a Mary-Mac inspired observance of Fat Tuesday?  But maybe I’m splitting hairs.  Mary the masseuse was darn good.  My travel-weary neck and sore dogs liked it a lot, and they want more, so I got Mary's contact info.  Next time you’re in Kenya, give her a ring -- that’s Mary Njambi at 0722-251-631 -- or e-mail her at marypraised@yahoo.com.  And tell her you're a friend of Mary Mac's.
It’s late now and I’m thinking about Lannie and our girls, 8,000 miles away.  I told Lannie before I left that as much as I was looking forward to this trip, I didn’t look forward to being so spread apart:  Lannie in Indy, Jackie in Dayton, Jean in South Bend, and me here.  I miss them.  And that makes me think about tonight’s new arrivals from Kisumu to Nairobi, and what’s next for them.  They’re apart from their families, too, but tonight they're a step closer.  When we arrived at New Life Homes in Nairobi and delivered the babies, Wanda, her caregiver, took hers into her arms, stepped away from us into the darkness, and whispered, “Baby, you are home now.”